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First of all...HA HA at the Barney song! lol. Takin' it ol Skol! lol. Releasing the grudge energy is great. I agree with Elaysha about letting him know you're not mad or holding a grudge but also let him know that that doesn't mean that how you feel about the situation has changed. Because you gave the guy the chance he asked for but to change back right after you gave them the chance shows that they didn't deserve the chance in the first place.
ReplyDeleteAs Alway..thanks for continuing to VV for us! You're truly an inspiration! I thought I was going to have to write Mark myself to fix their lil' policy...
Where to begin. So I had an ex of 3 years, we broke up our second year of college and we were HS sweethearts. The break up was in 2002. I honestly believe that I held that grudge until the last couple years. I was always mad because our break-up made me feel like I failed even though we were not good for each other. And because I stayed mad I him I took it out on every relationship after him. When I took the time to myself and started to love myself more I realized that he never loved me as much as I deserved to be loved. That made me forgive him. Because I realized that he was that child, hell we were both children. I was always mad at him and not his actions. He didn't know any better. I never told him that I forgave him but after I did seeing him and interacting with him has become more pleasant. I used to be out at a club and I'd see him and stop dancing or conversing with other boys, when he'd walk around holding another chicks hand. I was still trying to show him respect when he never knew how to respect me. But forgiving him freed me of him. It brings closure. So if it will help you feel better then let him know. Either way...it feels Great to be Free of that!
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