Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Meditation

Some people don’t think they “believe” in meditation. That’s fine because it’s not a religion. Meditation is about clarity and having moments of silence. When you hear “QT” we usually think of quality time… I think of quiet time! If you don’t already, take some time out each day to simply be silent. Think about nothing at all and simply let your mind free. Take deep breaths in and allow your exhales to help you to release all negativity and challenges. I like to write about mine after. Don’t forget to date them. Cool to look at over time. So go ‘head, try it this weekend… get your quiet time on! Meditate. Post how it goes… it’s NOT easy. Keep at it!

Peace.

Insomnia

Did you know that 40% of Americans suffer with Insomnia? More importantly did you know that you may just think you can’t sleep but people are being diagnosed with different diseases that are causing insomnia. Be careful of this. Please read the following carefully because getting enough sleep is a very important part of being healthy. Also, remember that if you find that you are suffering with something serious to check you holistic options before considering taking ANY kind of medication. Ok I’m trusting you… here it goes!

At some point, we've all experienced at least a few nights of too little, or restless sleep. Many of us are familiar with the consequences of one or more sleepless nights - sluggishness, poor concentration, irritability, changes in appetite, etc. For the majority of cases, it takes just a day or two to catch up on restorative sleep. Yet for up to half of the population, lack of sleep can turn into a more serious problem: insomnia.

While experts may disagree over the exact definition, insomnia is typically characterized by the duration of symptoms, not the specific amount of sleep one gets. Individuals may have vastly different sleep practices and require different amounts of sleep - but true insomnia usually involves difficulty initiating or maintaining sleep for at least one week or more.

Even more troublesome, the causes of insomnia remain a mystery for many sufferers. It's not a disease in and of itself - it's a symptom of another underlying problem. Therefore, the key to treating insomnia involves unearthing the root cause.

The main causes for insomnia can be broken up into 3 different categories:

1. Environmental/situational

2. Medical or psychiatric

3. Primary sleep disorders

Primary sleep disorders are much less common but include conditions such as narcolepsy, sleep apnea, and restless leg syndrome. These are physical-neurological dysfunctions that need to be treated under a doctor's care and may require medication. Yet for the vast majority of insomnia sufferers, environmental and common medical problems are the source of the problem.

That means there are simple lifestyle changes you can make in your daily routine that may dramatically improve the amount and quality of sleep you get each night. Common insomnia triggers include stress, depression, certain medications (e.g. beta blockers, anti-histamines, or anti-depressants), caffeine, alcohol, shift work, and underlying health problems. These factors can all impact our ability to fall or stay asleep. Insomnia is also more likely to strike women and older individuals due to hormonal changes and shifting sleep patterns.

Sleep medications may be helpful for some insomnia sufferers, but before you reach for the pills, consider some easy tips for better sleeping:

Evaluate your sleep hygiene Avoid watching TV, eating, or working in bed. Make the bedroom a sanctuary for sleep. Keep the temperature a few degrees cooler than the rest of the house and hide bedroom clocks so you're not constantly checking the time as you try to fall asleep. Try sticking to a sleep schedule and limiting naps or daytime sleeping.

Get active Thirty minutes of exercise each day (at least 5 to 6 hours before bedtime) will help you get more restful sleep at night.

Avoid triggers Caffeine, alcohol and nicotine or large meals before bedtime can disrupt your ability to fall asleep and remain asleep throughout the night. Though many people use alcohol to get to sleep initially - alcohol actually compromises the quality of sleep you get overnight.

Check your medication Make sure they don't contain stimulants. Talk to your doctor about other options if you think your prescriptions are preventing you from getting good sleep.

Stressful life events also commonly trigger insomnia. If you think anxiety is the underlying problem behind your insomnia, relaxation techniques such as progressive muscle relaxation, biofeedback and deep breathing exercises may be helpful techniques to fight off tension at bedtime. Click here to read about several of these alternative techniques. Whatever the cause, insomnia can have devastating consequences on your health and quality of life - the key to relief is resolving the underlying cause.

Texting vs Calling

Here are a list of actions. Copy and paste this list in your reply. Next to each action type which form of communication is most appropriate to the action. Feel free to type your reasons AND add to the list!! This should be fun!

1) Goodmorning

2) Death/Birth

3) I love you

4) I’m Sorry

5) I’m Busy

6) Let’s breakup

7) I got the job

8) Disease

9) Pregnancy

10) I miss you

Saying Goodbye

SAYING GOODBYE

Saying Goodbye to someone you truly love can be the hardest thing one ever has to do. They know all of your secrets; they’ve become your best friend. My best friend and I always make it a point to say “see you later” because “good-bye” is just so final.

We usually concern ourselves with HOW to do it What about WHY do we do it?

Funny how someone could stay with the person who hurt them the most for years but won’t keep a true love for even a year. Know why? That hurtful love is sneaky, deceitful and manipulative. The hurtful love knows how to play the game and causes your emotions to believe and trust them. The true love feels hurtful because it’s honest and the truth hurts. The true love communicates and sometimes makes you comfort YOU and it’s uncomfortable so you run. The true love pulls on your heart strings and gets in your mind. You get confused and you run. Letting a love go is usually because one person is a runner. Remember, ANY two people who WANT to TRY can make a love work. As soon as one gives it, it sets the stage for the curtain call. Ahhhhhh!! This gets so complicated. I tell you what though, it’s much more simple to simply let simplicity rule. Let the light of your love shine through and free bird inside you fly. When it comes to matters of the heart, be open.

If you’re just too too hurt and you have to walk away:

1) Don’t text your goodbye. Be mature. Give your love that you once shared a common courtesy. Be present for them as you once promised in some heat of some moment!!!!

2) Try not to yell. You may be angry but understand that you’re mostly hurt and you DO/DID love this person

3) Listen- They may have something to say. So many times clarification of a miscommunication can save a relationship. If nothing else listen, you may get the apology or acknowledgement you’ve been yearning for.

4) NEVER FORGET THIS ONE- Learn to love the people and the things that hurt you. This goes hand in hand with forgiveness. I’ve always said that “forgiveness is love, without fear”

Share your thoughts.

Dynamics Changing

Dynamics, in this instance is stimulating development or progress. What do you do when that begins to change? The lesson in all of my past relationships has always been, “even when it looks good… it’s not.” Well that’s the real lesson but I do believe that although a little bitter sounding, there’s some truth to that! At least in the moment that something you thought was so perfect, ends. When things go array in your relationship, can’t you simply communicate? If there’s love there, shouldn’t two people be trying to exhaust all the possibilities before letting go. I believe ANY two people on the face of this earth can make a relationship work as long as they both want it and they both try. When one starts to give up, the dynamics change.

Things that you used to love about them, now irritate you. You don’t desire them physically anymore, you don’t call as often, you don’t feel the need to be romantic anymore, you’d rather spend time alone or with friends….etc….

If this isn’t your story and you and your honey are going through it and you’re ready to let it go, DON’T hold on tight. It could be a lot worse. Keep your dynamics in tact! Good Luck!

From Hip Hop Blogger Michelle Woods

Are you truly happy? What does that mean to you? Here’s what it means for happy people!

Listen to music

Don’t isolate

Finish What you Start

Be open to New Ideas

Get A Good night sleep

Give away what you don’t need

Find People you love

Follow you heart

Stay Inspired

FOCUS on creating what you desire

Don’t forget that money buy Happiness

Be A Part of A Community (Okaysister and Hip Hop Sisters!!!)

Believe in something Bigger than you

Want what you Have

Love Mother earth

Love who you are RIGHT NOW!!!

Which of these things do you practice? Which really stand out for you? Which would you like to try more of?

mw

J Hud Rumors....

J-HUD RUMORS

From a Disney cruise line singer to American Idol winner, Jennifer Hudson has won our hearts. One hit film and an Oscar later we can’t seem to wrap our minds around the tragedy surrounding her. People are talking about what some would do for the price of fame. Online bloggers are speculating about J- Hud’s prior knowledge as to what she would have to sacrifice just to stay on top. They mention Masonic and illuminati affiliation. I don’t have too much knowledge on those things but her string of bad luck sure does pull on my heart strings. Hard to use the trendy one liner that we all seem to be throwing around these days,” everything happens for a reason.” What could be the reason that this beautiful, talented and down to earth young lady would loose her mother, brother and nephew all in the same span of time? How do we explain that? I know, I know, it’s not our job to even begin to explain but boy would I like to chat with God about that one.

Now a mother of a 10 month old baby boy and a wife, she says this about life as a mom,” “makes me feel like the most special person on earth. I want him to get the same love and the same upbringing my mother gave us.”

Hudson has finally spoken out saying,” “It’s all a blur, it was surreal,” she says of the immediate aftermath of the killings. “It was like I was outside of myself … For almost two weeks straight . . . [I was] inside one room with just family and friends coming in and out. I prayed when I’d get up in the morning and prayed before I laid down at night.”

Now a mother of a 10 month old baby boy and a wife, she says this about life as a mom,” “makes me feel like the most special person on earth. I want him to get the same love and the same upbringing my mother gave us.”

Sometimes we can get lost in celebrity headlines and forget that they’re real people too. Let’s not forget J’Hud and how hard things must be for her. How difficult it probably is just to get through some days. I mentioned the rumors b/c we need to be informed and cannot turn a blind eye. We need to educate ourselves and make ourselves available to the truth. That’s all. So simple.

We love you Jennifer!